I think your right. However all of what you said relies on a baseline of looks money status.

For instance, when reading this article and imagining traits of kindness and having a good personality… no one is imagining a date with Danny DeVito.

They are imagining Ryan Gosling vs Mark Ruffalo.. Gosling is clearly more attractive, taller and with lower body fat but I’d settle with Mark Ruffalo because his personality is nicer!